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How To Be Assertive and Feminine Simultaneously

Assertive and Feminine

How To Be More Assertive

Standing up for yourself and being firm are life skills that can help support your personal, professional, and social life. Being assertive comes in tandem with confidence and self-worth. By being assertive, firm, and standing your ground in a respectful, fair, and mature way, you can feel empowered, happy, and in control of your own decisions. Let’s look at a few ways you can be more assertive while maintaining femininity and just why it is so beneficial to know your worth and stick to what you believe.

Set Clear Boundaries And Expectations

When your boss messages you after the end of the workday, do you run to your phone or work desk? If you find yourself constantly working and are struggling to remember when you weren’t glued to a company group chat or solving a career-related problem, then there may be some boundary issues between you and your workplace.

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Similarly, perhaps you spend every weekend running errands for friends or family members and dream of having a few valuable hours to yourself? It’s important to set clear boundaries. Make it clear to your employer that you have set working hours and won’t be reachable at certain times. Explain to friends and family members that your time is important and people should respect you. Be polite but be firm.

Make it clear when you disagree with something and remember to not constantly let yourself be overwhelmed with tasks and favors just to please everybody around you. Make sure you set aside some time for yourself.

Trust In Yourself

So much of being assertive stems from believing that what you say and do is valid and important. By knowing what you want, you will be able to stand up for yourself and express your opinion in such a way that is tactful and maintained.

If somebody asks you to do something or expresses an opinion that you don’t necessarily agree with, don’t be afraid to voice your opinion. However, say it and be done with it. There's no need to over accentuate your opinion. In the words of my good sis NeNe Leaks "You said what You said"!

Be confident in the power of your speech and opinions and how you convey them. If you have something to say or don’t want to do something, remember that you have as much right to speak your mind and say no as anybody else and you can do so without even disturbing your pearls!

Make Eye Contact

To be femininely assertive, you need to feel femininely assertive. Maintaining eye contact in a casual, friendly, and balanced way is a great opportunity to demonstrate assertive behavior.

If your boss wants you to work overtime but you don’t want to, or you have been asked to do something you don’t feel comfortable with, then eye contact can work wonders. Simply look somebody in the eye when speaking to them. You can blink and engage, and make the encounter friendly and relaxed, but eye contact shows confidence.

Be Aware Of Your Body Language

Try practicing assertive body language. Avoid crossing your arms as that can either suggest nervousness or hostility. Stand firm, with a good posture, maintain eye contact, and demonstrate a friendly but firm approach.

Avoid slouching, crossing your legs, or playing with an item of clothing or jewelry. You want to look confident, firm, feminine and own your space. Remember, you can do all these things in a neutral and friendly way.

Maintain A Kind And Friendly Approach

Regardless of how you choose to assert yourself, remember to be kind. You can still be assertive and maintain your warm, friendly personality. Sometime your energy speaks for its self and it says more without you having to even open your mouth.

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Assertiveness is an incredibly effective way of setting boundaries, knowing your worth, and allowing you to have some control over your own choices. Adding femininity to that is a very powerful combination. It says a lot about you in a mysterious way and people are a little less likely to try you. Be bold, be proud, be femininely assertive and be you!


Embracing assertiveness and femininity is essential for personal feminine growth as well as maintaining healthy relationships in all aspects of life. By setting clear boundaries, trusting in yourself, making eye contact, being aware of your body language, and maintaining a kind and feminine approach, you can become more assertive and confident in your daily life.



  1. What is the difference between being assertive and being aggressive? Being assertive means standing up for yourself and expressing your needs and opinions in a respectful and confident manner, while being aggressive involves imposing your will on others, often with hostility or force.

  2. How can I practice being more femininely assertive in my daily life? It all starts with setting clear boundaries, voicing your opinions (when asked), maintaining eye contact, and being aware of your body language. Practice these skills in low-stakes situations to build your confidence.

  3. Is it possible to be assertive without coming across as rude or confrontational? Yes, assertiveness can be balanced with kindness and a friendly demeanor. The key is to be respectful and considerate of others while standing up for yourself.

  4. Can being assertive help with my self-esteem? Absolutely! Being assertive allows you to express your needs and opinions, which can boost your confidence and self-worth.

  5. What if I struggle with femininity and assertiveness due to fear of rejection or conflict? Start by practicing femininely assertiveness in low-stakes situations and build your confidence gradually. Remember that standing up for yourself is a sign of self-respect, and others are more likely to respect you when you assert yourself in a respectful manner.

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